Kindness is definitely underrated. Across social media we often see clichéd memes about it and probably don’t pay much attention to those overly used and sometimes cloying sentiments. But this week in particular has reinforced just how fundamentally important and meaningful kindness is – particularly for the chronically ill and those of us who are carers.
Getting through each day and remaining strong and positive for the person you love who is dealing with relentless pain and crushing fatigue is a job in itself – made so much more difficult and stressful when you don’t have the support of the medical system to come to your aid when symptoms increase, causing worry and even further deterioration (chronic lyme disease doesn’t exist, remember). As carers, we are so focused on making that person’s day as stress free and comfortable as possible, that we don’t always have the time to put our heads up and notice what’s happening around us.
Recently, several random acts of kindness certainly made me sit up and notice. Small but impactful gestures that made our life just that little bit more bearable –by people who probably have no idea how important they were:
- A family member carrying my daughter upstairs because she physically can’t manage it herself – and then popping round the following day armed with a gift bag full of gluten free and low sugar treats for her to enjoy
- A spoonie friend posting a thoughtful gift and a beautiful card filled with encouraging words and positive thoughts
- A neighbour dropping some home grown vegetables onto our doorstep
- A fellow lyme mum and carer taking the time to give support and advice when she already has so much to deal with herself
- A running friend of mine pushing a note into my hand to buy my daughter some flowers
It’s the small things.